katie allison granju

I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.

 

the year of yes February 28, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 10:53 pm

Has anyone read this book, The Year of Saying Yes?

It’s about a woman who decided she was tired of ending up with the same sort of man always, so decided to say yes to everyone who asked her out for an entire year, no matter how implausible they were (example: she went out with an actual MIME.)

I just don’t think I could do this. I have been on some truly terrible dates in the past year and these were with guys who at least on the front end, appeared to have some potential. Some of them were so bad that I bolted halfway through the date (I know. That’s terrible and rude)

And I have had some VERY strange people ask me out. No way would I have said yes. And some people I just haven’t felt like there was any point in it for them or me. I could predict pretty surely that no fun was going to be had.

I do want to read the book, though.

 
 

www.ElectLumpy.com

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 3:23 pm

Have you received your
invitation
to County Commission candidate Greg “Lumpy” Lambert’s
campaign reception? I have. I probably can’t make it, though, which is a shame
because I would really like to have a shot at the knives and guns he’s
giving away as doorprizes…

I love East Tennessee. I really, really do.

 
 

nashville knucklehead February 27, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 2:15 pm

Crack Monkey has me checking in regularly with this blog lately. It’s quite entertaining. I’d like to meet this guy.

 
 

tennessee guerilla women

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 1:48 pm

I love the Tennessee Guerilla Women site/blog and would like to encourage you to check out the fine array of stuff to buy they have available…

tgw

 
 

single mama stuff

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 12:19 pm

So I’ve met & am seeing someone I like a good deal. He’s pretty great. It’s been quite an unexpected surprise for any number of reasons, but there it is. It’s sweet.

I’ve been very wary of introducing anyone to my children since I started dating (silly word) again and mostly, I haven’t. My kids’ father seems much more okay with having his girlfriends around the kids often and early (and that seems to work fine for all concerned. really. just seems not right for me). I did let one person meet the kids and spend a little bit of time with the four of us as a family, but I now think that was too early because my kids seemed a bit confused by where he went when things between us cooled.

I have another person I’ve seen a good bit over the past year who has literally NEVER met my children and doesn’t seem inclined to. It just doesn’t seem to be something that’s ever going to be part of our relationship. Then a third person I saw for a bit last winter quickly morphed into a good, close, platonic friend whom I love having around the kids because it’s not a romantic relationship at all. The kids like him, too.

But anyway, so here’s this guy I am seeing and really, really like and it’s hard to suss out when and how to have the whole “meet the children” thing happen. On the one hand, there’s no hurry whatsoever. On the other hand, no one can actually get to know me in any real, meaningful way unless they know me as a mother (I mean, I am myself aside from being a mother, but that’s a huge, huge part of who I am). And you can’t have any idea what my life is actually like unless you spend time around me with my children and the four of us as a family. So if someone gets to know me over a period of months without ever seeing me with my children, they may not have a clear sense of the person they are dating and the whole thing could go terribly awry once that element was introduced into the relationship. It could be very jarring. Life with three children is very, very different from life as a single guy with no children.

Also, if you have three children and you never allow the person you are dating around them at all, it means you can essentially only see that person every other weekend, which isn’t awfully conducive for getting to know someone or developing a relationship beyond the occasional movie or something.

It’s not an easy thing to figure out. I’ll let you know if I ever do :-)

 
 

breastfeeding in massachusetts February 26, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:38 pm

Recently, MA became the first state in the United States to legislatively enact a ban on hospitals handing out “free” formula samples to new mothers as they leave the hospital with their newborns. The reason? Because it’s unethical for medical providers to act as sales reps for the pharmaceutical companies that make,market and sell infant formula. And that is what is happening when these gift bags of bottles and formula go home with new mothers.

Additionally, it’s clear to anyone who works with new mothers that women who are given free infant formula are more likely to supplement breastfeeding with the artificial baby milk, as well as to give up entirely on breastfeeding within the first few weeks. When a doctor, nurse or hospital gives a new mother infant formula to take home, the message is “We know you SAY you plan to breastfeed, but really, we expect you to fail or at least supplement, so here’s what we know you will need.”

Even for mothers who leave the hospital knowing they do not choose to breastfeed, the brand of sample the hospital sends home with bottlefeeding mothers is a not so subtle endorsement of that particular brand.

Anyone who claims that the infant formula companies have no agends in giving away millions and millions of dollars in free product via hospital maternity wards each year is, well, beyond naive. Of course they have an agends. They don’t do it just to be nice. They do it because they are well aware that free formula samples lessen the chance a new mother will start or continue breastfeeding. They know that supplementary bottles of formula in the first weeks of breastfeeding often throw the delicate supply-demand balance off just as women and their babies are trying to get the hang of nursing. They also know that many newborns cannot switch easily between breast and bottle nipple and will very quickly begin rejecting breast for bottle if given bottles in the first few weeks. Most of all they know that every woman who chooses to breastfeed rather than bottlefeed her baby represents a loss of at least $1,000 (that’s a consrevative estimate) in sales of infant formula during that infant-consumer’s first 12 months.

Let’s say this very clearly: the companies that make, market and sell infant formula want people to buy their product. Of course they do. And breastfeeding women have no need for their product. Ergo, it is in their economic best interest to discourage women from breastfeeding any time and in every way they can. These hospital freebie giveaways are one of the most effective tools they have.

To take the argument a bit further, the pharma companies that sell infant formula ALSO make and sell the medicines that treat the myriad illnesses, major and minor, that non-breastfed babies and children are far more likely to develop.

Do the math.

I was very excited to hear about MA’s freebie formula ban, but am angry and disppointed to see that a huge backlash has started against it, with editorials like this one claiming that ending the free formula takeaways means new mothers are being “coerced” into breastfeeding or “denied choice” in how to feed their babies.

This is a ridiculous argument as long as infant formula is still available on store shelves. Women can choose to feed their babies however they like, but it is not appropriate or ethical for the hospitals or doctors to act as sales reps for the companies selling a particular brand. If a woman wants infant formula, she can buy it, thus freely exercising her choice in both how she will feed her baby and what brand of artificial baby milk she will buy.

Here are a few articles I’ve written on this topic, if you are new to the subject and would like some background:

This one is an investigative piece I did on the huge influence the infant formula industry has on policy making in medical groups like the American Academy of Pediatrics, and also on public health campaigns.

This article originally appeared in Salon.com and is a good overview on the unethical tactics of these formula companies and how the medical establishment is turning a blind eye. This one also offers a good round-up of the medical evidence that increasingly demonstrates that bottlefed babies in the United States have markedly higher levels of morbidity and mortality than breastfed children.

Here an excerpt from my book on the World Health Organization Code on the Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes, and how formula companies are flouting it all over the world, especially in the U.S.

 
 

yippee! new yarn store in k-town!

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 3:51 pm

Check it out. It looks like it’s going to be great.

 
 

I have a new housekeeper person and think I may be… February 25, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:03 pm

I have a new housekeeper person and think I may be in love with her.

I am domestically challenged and NEED someone to help me keep my house in order. I’ve had someone to help with this off and on over the years and I’m always much happier overall when someone is on. It’s hard to find someone good, though.

I lucked into this genius person via Stewart Pack (see below). SHe’s his sister in law. She already has my little house looking and feeling 100 times better. She even does things like organize the closets for me and buy me the cleaning supplies she thinks I need.

 
 

We didn’t stay for all of John Davis last night bu…

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:00 pm

We didn’t stay for all of John Davis last night but the Stewart Pack show was just great. They and The High Score are, I think, my favorite local bands to see live. I love SP’s fuzzy guitar tone.

It was very cute because SP’s wife Kimberly brought their three little children to see their father play and there were these three towheaded little kids up at the stage, staring up at their rockstar dad in rapt awe.

 
 

t’night February 24, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 7:41 pm

stewartpack
Originally uploaded by kgranju.

I can’t wait to see this show tonight. I need to get a nap first, though. I am exhausted. Work has been eating me alive this week.

And here’s my little interview I did with Stewart that ran today.

Stewart and John D. (former SUperdrag guitarist) are two of my favorite folk sto see play live. Big fun.

 
 

soundtrack for my day February 23, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 3:04 pm

Best new record I’ve heard in months

 
 

embracing psychic pain February 22, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 8:23 pm

This is a very interesting new article on the so called “third wave” of psychology in which sufferers are told to embrace their suffering rather than try to escape it or make it go away.

Great concept, but not new; the Buddhists have been telling us this for several thousand years. Pema Chodron wrote a great book called When Things Fall Apart” in hich she describes how “leaning into” our hurt softens it and eventually makes it pliable and something we can work with.

Childbirth educators have long known that teaching women to “go into” painful contractions works better than trying to get them to be distracted away from the pain.

In my own life, I’ve found the hard way that the only way through, is through. No going around or over or under. The crucible of leaning into the bad stuff is a central tenet of human existence. It makes us better, sometimes.

I understand that serious, organic mental illness cannot respond entirely to this approach, but basic suffering can be alleviated with it.

My 2 cents.

 
 

frequency February 20, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:44 pm

I am beyond slammed with work at the moment, so blogging posts will be less frequent this week.

But of course, you can always read the blog I actually get PAID to write

Carry on.

 
 

playing February 19, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 6:06 pm

Napoleon Dynamite is now so ingrained in pop culture that my son Elliot and my three year old nephew Mac are running around the house “playing Liger.” I’m not exactly sure what Ligers do, but the boys are.

I do know that Ligers are quieter and less rambunctious than the Jedi knights they were being a little while ago, which is good, since I am trying to both write and mother today and we are all stuck in the house because it’s so cold out.

(Addendum: they are now “man eating tree frogs.”)

 
 

current listening

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:49 pm

My adoration of this record is boundless…

 
 
 

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