katie allison granju

I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.

 

sadness October 30, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 9:17 pm

Thanks, all, for the kind words and warm wishes.

I tried going to work today but felt rather spacey and very exhausted, so I came home. I have an awesome boss who knows what’s going on, so he encouraged me to leave. I do hope to be up and running tomorrow, although I am afraid the full emotional impact of this loss is only starting to hit me now.

Some more of my labwork came back today and it turns out I have a rather nasty e.coli infection that was apparently asymptomatic for me. The midwife said she couldn’t believe I wasn’t laid out flat with the “raging” infection the labwork turned up. So now I am on antibiotics. I feel like I am falling apart physically, even though I am generally a super healthy person.

This morning I woke up hoping the miscarriage had just been a bad dream. Then I realized it hadn’t and it felt like a heavy weight descended on my chest for the day.

Everyone tells me - and they are right - that with the right medical follow-up, I will likely have a healthy baby by next year sometime. There are some clues as to what caused this and that means we can fix the problem. And of course, I already have three amazing children, so I am lucky and blessed, but this loss has still hit me hard. We were so excited about this baby, this time.

And I’d like to add that I have the most thoughtful and dear husband and family on the planet. I really don’t deserve all the wonderful people I have in my life. I’m blessed that way, too.

 
 

:-( October 29, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 11:20 pm

I had a miscarriage.

We are very sad.

 
 

complications October 28, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 9:30 pm

pregnancy complications = not fun & not good

:-(

 
 

i want to interview you! October 27, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 1:52 pm

I am writing some new articles for HGTV.com and I’m looking for interview subjects. Please be in touch if you fit one of these categories and would be willing to let me ask you some questions:

-You have reglazed/refinished bathroom fixtures rather than replacing them (whether you did it yourself or hired a professional)

-You have a “non traditional” floor in your bathroom (wood, bamboo, cork, one of the new “bathroom friendly” carpets, glass, rubber matting, cement)

E-mail me at kagranju@gmail.com

Feel free to pass this along to friends and family who may fit the interview bill.

Thanks!

Katie

 
 

preparing for halloween at our house with the cousins October 25, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 7:54 pm

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first visit to midwife

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 6:02 pm

Today I had my first appointmant with MY MIDWIFE and it went very well. I like her a lot.

Everything seems normal, except maybe for the fact that I still don’t really feel that pregnant. I can’t remember when feeling sick all the time kicked in with Elliot (my last pregnancy, in 1997), but so far I’ve felt quite excellent with this one, which makes it somewhat hard to believe I am actually expecting.

My sister keep warning me that she, too felt fine until late in the first trimester when she suddenly began feeling awful and stayed feeling that way for several months. I don’t want that. Instead, I’m hoping for a mostly nausea-free pregnancy, like I had with Henry in 1991. When I was pregnant with Henry, I felt so good all the time that I honestly couldn’t really believe I was pregnant until I started feeling him move. So far I haven’t gained any weight either.

Here’s hoping for an easy nine months… And I am hoping I can convince Jon to consider some of the boy names I love (William, for example) that he says he really doesn’t want to put on our short list :-)

 
 

Happy Whore-O-Ween October 24, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 9:51 pm

This afternoon I took the children to pick out Halloween costumes at the dreaded Party City. I am not and never have been one of those handy mamas who can whip up a costume from scratch; one year I tried to make a skeleton costume for kindergartener Henry and he came home in tears because everyone thought he was a fairy princess. But I digress.

Anyway, as we walked up and down the aisles of costumes (Ninja! Police officer! Dracula!) I noticed a trend: ALL of the costumes for women had a twist. They weren’t just Dracula costumes, they were SLUTTY Dracula costumes. It wasn’t just a pirate wench, but an extremely SLUTTY pirate wench. Female skeletons had cleavage. Female monsters wore garters and stilettos.

In Party City-Land, witches wear miniskirts, thigh high boots, and carry bullwhips. Forget those naughty French Maid costumes of years past, today those with the raciest sensibilities can go straight to the Playboy (TM) costume rack.

I kid you not; Party City features a line of Playboy-designed women’s costumes.

It got me to thinking how it does seem like increasingly, Halloween (my least favorite holiday. I hate dressing up or dressing other people up) has become an excuse for women to dress like tarts. see nothing wrong with this; I just think it’s an interesting observation that LOTS of us must feel like the only time we can safely do this - without community disapproval, is on Halloween. It must be a secret fantasy of more than a few women who normally shop at Land’s End.

 
 

looking for recipes…

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 5:56 pm

..for a simple, homemade macaroni and cheese (no fancy cheeses I can’t find at a regular grocery or co-op) with a really good, strong cheese flavor. I don’t want it to taste bland or eggy or french.

and also for a good pumpkin spice cake to which I can add chocolate
chips :-)

Anybody got any good ones?

 
 

the worst kind of pain for parents?

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 4:32 pm

This article IN THE NYT about a family dealing with their 11 year old daughter’s severe mental illness literally made me weep.

I kept thinking about my own baby girl, just that age, and how incredibly lucky we are.

 
 

very interesting new review of what constitutes "normal" childbirth in the u.s.

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 3:32 pm

NEW YORK, NY — (MARKET WIRE) — October 24, 2006 — Although the great majority of pregnant women in the U.S. are healthy and have good reason to anticipate uncomplicated childbirth, Childbirth Connection’s new “Listening to Mothers II” survey shows that technology-intensive childbirth care is the norm. The survey was conducted by Harris Interactive for Childbirth Connection, in partnership with Lamaze International. The national survey polled 1,573 women who gave birth in 2005 and found that most mothers experienced numerous labor and birth interventions with various degrees of risk that may be of benefit for mothers with specific conditions, but are inappropriate as routine measures. Overall, survey mothers experienced the following interventions: electronic fetal monitoring (94%), intravenous drip (83%), epidural or spinal analgesia (76%), one or more vaginal exams (75%), urinary catheter (56%), membranes broken after labor began (47%), and synthetic oxytocin (Pitocin) to speed up labor (47%).

Additionally, more than four out of ten mothers (41%) reported that their caregiver tried to induce their labor. When asked if the induction caused labor to begin, more than four out of five of those women (84%) indicated that it did, resulting in an overall provider induction rate of 34%. Among all survey mothers whose providers tried to start their labors, 79% cited one or more medical reasons for being induced, while 35% cited one or more non-medical reasons. Overall, 11% of mothers reported experiencing pressure from a health professional to have labor induction, and those reporting pressure were more likely to have had it.

“Listening to Mothers II” was conducted in January and February 2006. It provides health professionals, payors, policymakers, hospitals and women and families with an unprecedented look at experiences of childbearing women and their infants. It also gives all of these groups a basis for improving conditions for mothers and babies by comparing their actual experiences to their preferred experiences, to care to which they are legally entitled, to care supported by best evidence, and to optimal outcomes.

“The data show many mothers and babies experienced inappropriate care that does not reflect the best evidence, as well as other undesirable circumstances and adverse outcomes. This sounds alarm bells,” said Maureen Corry, executive director of Childbirth Connection. “Few healthy, low-risk mothers require technology-intensive care when given good support for physiologic labor. Yet, the survey shows that the typical childbirth experience has been transformed into a morass of wires, tubes, machines and medications that leave healthy women immobilized, vulnerable to high levels of surgery and burdened with physical and emotional health concerns while caring for their newborns.”

Survey Reveals Gaps Between Actual and More Optimal Experiences and Outcomes

“Listening to Mothers II” identified many gaps between their experiences, their desires and best medical practice. For example:

– Within this largely healthy population, four labors in ten were
started artificially and one mother in three had a cesarean.

– A great majority (85%) felt that a woman who wants a VBAC (vaginal
birth after cesarean) should be able to make that decision, but most women
who were interested in a VBAC were denied this option by their caregiver
(45%) or hospital (23%).

– Virtually all of the mothers asked felt that they should be informed
about all (78% and 81%) or most (19% and 17%) of the complications related
to labor induction and cesarean, respectively, before deciding to have
these interventions, yet the majority of mothers were poorly informed about
several complications of labor induction and cesarean section and most had
incorrect knowledge or were not sure.

– Among the vaginal birth mothers who experienced episiotomies (25%),
only 18% stated that they had been given a choice about it.

Safe and Effective Care Practices Were Under Used
In addition to overuse of interventions, the survey showed a striking under use of several care practices known to be safe and effective, and especially appropriate for healthy, low-risk women. Only a small proportion of women experienced these beneficial practices, including use of highly rated drug-free methods of pain relief (e.g., immersion in a tub, shower, use of large “birth ball”), monitoring the baby with handheld devices instead of electronic fetal monitoring, drinking fluids or eating during labor, moving about during labor, giving birth in non-supine positions, and pushing guided only by their own reflexes rather than caregiver-directed pushing.

“These findings are of particular concern,” notes Judith Lothian, PhD, of Lamaze International. “The care practices that promote, protect and support normal birth appear to be unavailable to the vast majority of childbearing women in the United States.”

Cesarean Section: Making the Decision and the Implications

Despite considerable media attention to the concept of “maternal request cesarean,” this systematic national sample of mothers found that the phenomenon barely existed in 2005. Less than one-half of 1% (1 woman out of 252) of mothers in the survey who had a first-time cesarean reported that they had requested it themselves. Another contention — that vaginal birth is a threat to a mother’s pelvic floor — also had not been embraced by the mothers in the survey, with far less than 1% of mothers who had either a first or repeat cesarean citing this as the reason for their cesarean.

Study director Eugene Declercq, PhD, of the Boston University School of Public Health, explained, “The survey found scant evidence of maternal request cesareans. Rather, mothers indicated that the primary decision-maker concerning their cesarean was their care provider, either during or before labor. In contrast to an image of doctors pressured by mothers to perform a cesarean, one-fourth (25%) of those mothers who had a cesarean indicated that they felt pressure from a health professional to undergo their cesarean. This hardly supports the theory that the rapidly rising cesarean rate is based on maternal request. Research is needed into the complex interplay between mothers and their doctors regarding cesarean decision-making to better understand why the U.S. cesarean rate has escalated 41% in the past decade.”

Pain and Its Impact on Postpartum Health

Mothers with cesareans described how abdominal surgery had a big impact on their postpartum health. More than three-quarters (79%) reported pain at the site of the incision in the two months after birth, with 33% citing it as a major problem, and18% of those with a cesarean had ongoing pain at the site of the cesarean scar at least 6 months after giving birth.

Mothers with a cesarean were also twice as likely to report that postpartum pain interfered with their daily life than did mothers with vaginal deliveries with 22% describing that pain interfered “quite a bit” or “extremely” with routine activities compared to 10% of mothers with a vaginal birth.

Missed Opportunities

Given the increased recognition of the importance of the period before and between pregnancies, and the conditions under which women enter pregnancy, the data shows that there are deficiencies in care that could potentially lead to less optimal outcomes for mothers and babies.

Alarmingly, about half of the mothers surveyed had a body mass index considered to be “overweight” (25%) or “obese” (24%) and most mothers did not visit a healthcare provider to plan for a healthy pregnancy.

Less than half (47%) of mothers reported being asked during pregnancy about feelings of depression and only one-third (35%) were asked about physical or verbal abuse. However, more than three-quarters of providers (76%) did discuss signs of premature labor with the women and mothers reported being confident in their ability to recognize them.

Despite the importance of early contact for attachment and breastfeeding, most babies were not in their mothers’ arms during the first hour after birth, with a troubling proportion with staff for routine, non-urgent care (39%). Although 61% of the mothers wanted to breastfeed exclusively as they neared the end of their pregnancy, just 51% of all mothers were doing so one week after birth, a troubling missed opportunity.

On the positive side, most mothers learned of their pregnancies in the early weeks of their pregnancy, started prenatal care well within the first trimester and saw the same provider throughout the pregnancy. Nearly all mothers (96%) reported having received supportive care (comfort, emotional support, information) while in labor from at least one person, most often husbands/partners or the nursing staff.

Information Seeking

During pregnancy, mothers sought information about pregnancy and birth through a variety of sources, with first-time mothers naming books (33%) as their primary information source, followed by friends and relatives (19%), their provider (18%) and the Internet (16%), while experienced mothers named as their leading information source their own past experience (48%), followed by their doctor or midwife (18%), the Internet (13%) and books (12%). Fully two-thirds (68%) had watched one or more of eight television shows specially created to depict childbirth, with more than half of the viewers regularly watching at least one of these shows. Far more mothers were exposed to childbirth through TV shows than through childbirth education classes. Only one-fourth (25%) of women reported taking childbirth education classes during their most recent pregnancy, with a majority (56%) of new mothers taking classes, while only one in eleven (9%) experienced mothers took classes. As women neared the end of pregnancy, most felt confident, but a majority also felt fearful about their upcoming birth.

Mothers and Employment

“Listening to Mothers II” also explored mothers’ experiences with paid work and childbirth and found mothers under considerable stress to balance employment and family obligations. More than half the mothers (58%) reported being employed during pregnancy, working on average until 10 days before the due date. Only half the mothers who were employed full-time received paid maternity leave. Most mothers (57%) who were employed during pregnancy returned to work by 12 weeks after the birth of their baby. Less than half the mothers (46%) indicated they were able to stay at home as long as they liked.

More than one-third (37%) of mothers reported having to pay for some of their maternity care costs out-of-pocket, with an average expenditure for this group of $1,000.

About the Survey

Harris Interactive® conducted “Listening to Mothers II: The Second National U.S. Survey of Women’s Childbearing Experiences” on behalf of Childbirth Connection. The survey consisted of 1,373 online and 200 telephone interviews with women who had given birth in a hospital to a single live baby in 2005, with weighting of data to reflect the target population. The weighting included propensity scores, to adjust for the propensity to be online, a methodology developed and validated by Harris Interactive. Interviews were conducted from January 20 through February 21, 2006, and the survey took approximately 30 minutes to complete. The “Listening to Mothers II” survey will also serve as the basis for quarterly issue briefs that will explore in greater detail the key issues described in the report.

About Childbirth Connection

Childbirth Connection is a national not-for-profit organization that was founded in 1918 as Maternity Center Association. Childbirth Connection has grown from a small group of influential community leaders that was successful in reducing maternal and infant deaths in New York City, to a nationally recognized advocacy organization working to promote high-quality maternity care. Childbirth Connection is a voice for the needs and interests of childbearing families. Our mission is to promote safe, effective and satisfying maternity care for all women and their families through research, education and advocacy. More information about Childbirth Connection may be obtained at www.childbirthconnection.org.

About Lamaze International

Since its founding in 1960, Lamaze International has worked to promote, support and protect normal birth through education and advocacy through the dedicated efforts of professional childbirth educators, providers and parents. An international organization with regional, state and area affiliates, its members and volunteer leaders include childbirth educators, nurses, nurse midwives, physicians, students and consumers. More information about Lamaze International may be obtained at www.lamaze.org.

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the attachment parenting murderess

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 1:10 am

I just finished reading this book. True crime is my guilty pleasure and Ann Rule is the master. This was a fascinating read about a woman with what appears to be Borderline Personality Disorder and how she manipulated people around her into believing she was being abused by her husband so she could kill him “in self defense.”

Unfortunately for her, her plan didn’t pan out. She’s in prison.

This was also an interesting read for me because the protagonist was someone I certainly would have liked had she lived in my community. She was a La Leche League member and she breastfed her older son til he was five and her younger until she killed his father when the little boy was a toddler and thus, was separated from him by jail. She was a Waldorf homeschooling, earthy crunchy mama, a writer, and by all accounts, a charming and fun person. Unfortunately, she is also a murderer.

Anyway, this is my favorite of Ann Rule’s books so far.

 
 

happier

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 1:04 am

My children are home!

I miss them terribly when they’re gone.

 
 

what about these names? October 23, 2006

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 8:34 pm

Oliver

Simon

Anderson

Julian

Samuel

Thomas

William

Miles

Theodore

Your thoughts?

 
 

being married

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 8:08 pm

I’ve been married about two months now. Not that long, but long enough to know that I made the best decision of my life.

I was married previously for 13 years, and despite good intentions by two VERY young people on the day we plighted our troth, it was a decade-long relationship of clashing expectations and crushing disappointments. And at every point during my adult life, I’ve been surrounded by many marriages in various states of distress. I’ve come to the conclusion that not much is more painful on a day-to-day basis than a bad marriage. I’ve watched people I love slowly wither away from the hurt of an unhappy or profoundly unsatisfactory marriage. Give me single-hood any day over an unhappy marriage. I’ve done both and being single is far better than staying married just to stay married.

I’ve also had the good fortune to observe a few marriages that make both parties better people, happier people, and better parents, and that’s what I hoped for when I decided to marry again.

That’s what I got. Jon is such a a great man, and a wonderful person in my children’s lives, and a great member of our extended family. He’s patient with my many flaws and notices the things I do well.

I am lucky and happy.

 
 

pat tillman’s brother speaks out

Filed under: archive — katie allison granju @ 6:37 pm

When conservative, Catholic veterans who have lost family members in Iraq start speaking out THIS FORCEFULLY against the war in Iraq, I believe the WHite House will soon have to change course.

 
 
 

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