wth? July 26, 2008
So I’ve mentioned before that my neighborhood, about which I love most things, has this one teensy little problem: lots o’ vagrants and in-your-face panhandlers. Although putting a simple white picket fence around the yard has cut down on the problem quite a bit, we still have a fair amount of panhandling arrive on our front porch. Yes, these folks actually come knocking on your front door asking for money.
When we first moved here, I always gave them some. But then I started realizing that a good many of these folks were likely casing my house and my neighbors’ houses for the petty property crime (people have things like house plants and dogfood bowls stolen off their porches) that sort of plagues the ‘hood. So I stopped. Plus, they generally come after I’ve gone to bed or ins ome cases, in the very early morning hours, and I think that’s really rude.
A few months ago, a woman who looked to be in her 60s came by one day while I was out in my yard. She was limping, and carrying some really bizarro, sequined shirts and dresses. She asked me whether I wanted to buy some of the stuff, because she needed money. I said no thanks, but I did give her $5, which was all I had on me. She shuffled off down the street, as I felt sick and guilty for my own good health and many blessings.
Then, a month or so later, I was out strolling C. around the neighborhood, and the same woman was out in the front yard of one of the more rundown houses at the end of our street. She came to the fence to admire and coo over the baby. I asked her if her leg had improved, and she said yes. She told me she lived in the house with her sons, and that she had all kinds of health problems, and no one to help her, etc, etc, etc. At that point, a very thuggy looking young guy came out on the porch of her house and openly glared at me, so my impulse to maybe offer to help her in some way evaporated, as I realized I in no way wanted to invite awareness of my family’s existence down the street by that guy or his brothers, who also apparently live there. I felt really bad about it though. The woman clearly needs some help.
Then, last night, at about 11pm, the doorbell rang. Jon was already in bed. I went to the door - not opening it - and saw that it was this same woman. She was sweating profusely, and carrying what appeared to be a metal box and two VHS tapes. I could hear her and she could hear me through the leaded glass that surrounds our door, so I asked her what she needed. She seemed very anxious as she told me she was hoping some neighbor would buy the two VHS tapes plus a tape rewinder (that was the metal box) so her husband would have enough money for gas to get to work in the morning.
Ummmm…no.
I was afraid to even open the door to give her any cash, even if I had had any in the house - I literally did not. I was concerned that one or more of her “sons” might be waiting outside to get in the house if I opened the door. And what of this husband? She hadn’t mentioned him before. Does she even have one? And are her “sons” abusing her ins ome way, forcing her to do strange things like bang on neighbors’ doors at 11pm to sell VHS tapes so they can get drug money or check out potential burglary sites?
Who knows? I don’t. And I don’t know what our neighborhood can do about these night visitors. I’ve never lived anywhere - any sort of neighborhood - where these nighttime porch panhandlers are so pervasive. It’s very disturbing.
I probably should have called the police, but I find it hard to send the authorities after a sick, impoverished woman who hasn’t actually done anything illegal.
What would you do about this woman? What would you have done?